The most common questions I received from friends and family back in Indonesia since they know I got pregnant are:
Are you going to deliver in Singapore?
Who will take care of your baby?
How to survive living in Singapore with kids and without a maid?
It's expensive to have kids in Singapore, you know that, right?
Ermm..maybe for Singapore friends that reading this entry, you might raise your eyebrow and " HUH-ing " about those questions, yes indeed - I want to tell you that back in Indonesia, some people (or at least) my big family and some friends thinks living in Singapore is way more complicated than living a comfortable life in Indonesia.
I know some of you - my friend -curious about my life here but to proud to ask how am I doing so far here in Singapore, and you secretly reading this blog..but here, I need to tell you that when I made my choice to live in Singapore 7 years ago, I have made the one of the best decision in my life.
I came here to Singapore as a fresh grads, and thank God..I could get a job within the first month on my stays in Singapore - I didn't get a job through recommendation or a short cut to the company, I earned it on my own - and at that time until today I am proud to be in the job in Singapore, and very grateful to have a chance in living independently on my own.
Since then, I pretty much do things on my own from washing my clothes, dishes, taking public transport and going to places without counting on someone to send me off. I am happy and although sometimes back in my mind I miss to be at home and have someone to get the things done for me, but I never regretted my stays here in Singapore.
So, when those questions came to me..I realised that I've been so get used to Singapore style of living and not taking note on those issue asked above. I always think that if most lady in Singapore could cope up with baby and life here in Singapore, why can't I?
I believe when I try my best, the Man Up there is going to open the way for me.
But yes, it is less comfortable than being preggers back at home, maybe? I don't know.
But if you are talking about the comfort of having cars and driver to send you go and back from work, yes it is indeed more comfortable than taking mrt or bus in Singapore, because nobody care about..
You will found mostly non elderly, non preggers, non commuters with child and non disabled sitting on the priority seat suddenly fall asleep when they see me getting in the train, OR usually they suddenly get very busy on their phone and pretend that they never see me.
If you are that kind of commuters - SHAME ON YOU!
I do hope if you are pregnant someday/your wife is expecting..no one will give up their seat too.
But apart from the comfortable issue, I think I am ok being preggie in Singapore.
At least I am far away from the noisy auntie that keep telling me the myth of pregnancy :D
So as of now, yes..I will be delivering in Singapore, my Mom / my MIL will come and help me with the baby - So far no plan in hiring maid or nanny permanently and yes I know it's expensive to have baby in Singapore, and we are ready for it. I believe everything happens for a reason and this is for the best :)